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Submitted on the 2010/03/24 23:07:25
By: Unity
Location : South Africa
Friendship Ranking : Friendship God
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Joined : 2009/03/06 19:07:32
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The right way.
Are you the type of person that is never satisfied with other people’s results?
Then you are on the way to teaching your housecleaning recruits to fail.
Be reasonable when getting the family to do chores.
Remember each one of us may have a different way to clean the bath tub. If the tub gets cleaned no matter how or who does it, just keep in mind that it is clean.
Is your family failing at accomplishing the job, they may not fully understand what you expect. “Clean the bathroom” can be a vague request.
Consider posting a list of what cleaning the bathroom really involves.
The family will get a better idea of what and how you want the bathroom clean.
And the results will be much better.
Unsure on how to do things.
We seem to forget that jobs that are easy for us, maybe an unsolved mystery to the rest of the family.
Especially if everything has always been done for them.
Just like been employed, we need training.
So for a few days side by side, stand with your children and guide and explain to them how it is done.
Then followed by supervised cleaning.
Be sure not to fall into the trap of over criticizing.
You will risk a workers revolution.
Training your help will alleviate the frustration of them being overwhelmed by what to do.
Besides showing them how to accomplish certain chores, also show them how to make chores fun.
Nothing will happen if they don’t do it.
Consider your family member's motivation to clean.
Do they have one?
If you have consistently cleaned their messes for them, suddenly asking them to take responsibility may come as a shock.
Soften the blow by holding a family council and discussing the responsibilities associated with each family member.
This is a great time to bring up consequences for not following the plan.
There may be natural consequences.
If laundry is not brought to the laundry room every Monday, people will not have clothes to wear.
Other families may tie treats, allowances, or TV time to chore completion.
It may take them experiencing these consequences a few times to get the idea across.
Everyone is too busy and overscheduled.
If your family is overscheduled and overwhelmed, you are probably feeling the pressure of not enough time in the day.
You can look to your family to help pick up the slack, but are they just as busy as you are?
Many families today have few minutes left over in the day to tackle ordinary household chores.
If your family is trapped in a time crunch it may be time to reevaluate priorities to insure that necessary maintenance for your home is included.
Don’t forget to incorporate leisure time inside the home into your schedule.
Help your family learn that their efforts at accomplishing chores can remake their home into an oasis from the chaos of the outside world.
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Temper gets you into trouble; pride keeps you there.
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Submitted on the 2011/10/17 11:04:58
By: Unity
Location : South Africa
Friendship Ranking : Friendship God
Member Score : 700+
Total count : 6502
Joined : 2009/03/06 19:07:32
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Remaining calm also helps a lot.
Temper gets you into trouble; pride keeps you there.
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Submitted on the 2012/02/02 17:09:53
By: Firechild
Location : South Africa
Friendship Ranking : Friendship God
Member Score : 700+
Total count : 4969
Joined : 2009/03/08 14:38:05
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Calm is true.
I have learnt to show my children how to do something and then watch them do it, they then know what you expect of them.
You! Off my planet!
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Submitted on the 2012/02/02 19:06:40
By: Unity
Location : South Africa
Friendship Ranking : Friendship God
Member Score : 700+
Total count : 6502
Joined : 2009/03/06 19:07:32
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I agree with that, and also with you standing over them and assisting them in a calm manner reassures them that they are able to do things themselves.
Temper gets you into trouble; pride keeps you there.
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Submitted on the 2012/02/02 19:24:57
By: Firechild
Location : South Africa
Friendship Ranking : Friendship God
Member Score : 700+
Total count : 4969
Joined : 2009/03/08 14:38:05
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That is true.
You! Off my planet!
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