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Submitted on the 2012/01/26 07:25:18
By: Unity
Location : South Africa
Friendship Ranking : Friendship God
Member Score : 700+
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Joined : 2009/03/06 19:07:32
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While reading on the net a few things popped out at me, and thought to share them here.
Maybe this is needed...
What makes a loveless marriage?
Signs that this is happening, and most of all how to stop this.
Arguments
When one or both individuals in a marriage feel they are not being listened to, or their opinions and comments are not valued, they stop expressing themselves and internalize their feelings. This leads to a breakdown of communication within the marriage and becomes a source of frustration for both spouses. When communication finally does occur, it often escalates into arguments, further increasing the frustration both spouses feel toward one another and their marriage overall.
Decreased Intimacy
Amid the frustration of constant arguments and lack of time spent together, a further sign of a loveless marriage is evident in the lack of intimacy between spouses. Small signs of affection such as holding hands and kissing quickly vanish. Sexual desire for one another also vanishes because it feeds from emotional intimacy, which is one of the first casualties of a strained marital relationship. Spouses sometimes even opt to sleep in separate beds or different parts of their residence.
Beratement and no respect
My all time favorite, would be this one.
Even in the absence of anger, one or both partners might start to lose respect for the relationship and a spouse. That might signal the end as well.
“There are no victims, only volunteers"
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Submitted on the 2012/01/26 07:27:02
By: Unity
Location : South Africa
Friendship Ranking : Friendship God
Member Score : 700+
Total count : 5806
Joined : 2009/03/06 19:07:32
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Does every situation, no matter how seemingly trivial, evolve into a fight?
Do you or your spouse continually refer to hurtful events in the past?
Is all the respect gone from your relationship? Do you feel it is impossible to bring that respect back?
Have your goals and directions changed whereas your partner's have stayed the same? (Or vice versa.)
Is your partner no longer fostering your individual growth?
Have you and your partner both changed so much that you no longer share moral, ethical, or lifestyle values?
Have you and your spouse lost the art of compromise? When you disagree, are you unable to forge a path together that is acceptable to both?
Do you and your spouse have a basic sexual incompatibility? Do you feel completely unattracted to each other? Despite help from professional therapists, have you stopped making love?
Thoughts to ponder....
“There are no victims, only volunteers"
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Submitted on the 2012/02/06 07:03:56
By: Unity
Location : South Africa
Friendship Ranking : Friendship God
Member Score : 700+
Total count : 5806
Joined : 2009/03/06 19:07:32
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Words of beratement been used more than words of love.
Making your partner feel less than they are.
Ignoring whatever your partner says.
Pretending to listen but in fact nothing your partner says is important.
“There are no victims, only volunteers"
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Submitted on the 2012/02/07 10:00:40
By: Firechild
Location : South Africa
Friendship Ranking : Friendship God
Member Score : 500+
Total count : 4190
Joined : 2009/03/08 14:38:05
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This is sad when marriages become like this. The marriage should build one another up. It should be the one relationship in your life that makes all worthwhile.
Sharing is Caring.
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